Month: June 2018

Driving; Scotland vs England

Two countries. The same body governing its road systems. The same(ish) laws. Two completely different styles of driving.

I knew the English were…odd. Our cultures, although linked, are so completely and utterly different from each other it’s hard to believe that there is no border between the two.

I knew all this, and yet I was in no way prepared for the difference in how people drive down south. It really is extraordinary.

Speed Limits

Primarily with regards to those on the motorways. In both countries the legal speed limit on motorways is 70mph. In Scotland, there is a very lax take on this limit, with people frequently driving in excess of 90mph at times. Variable speed limits are a joke; people rarely obey them, and in fact, tend to get annoyed by those who do. There’s also no rush to slow yourself at roadworks. You’ll come down to 50mph at some point (probably when you get stuck behind a lorry or the like).

This somewhat indifferent attitude to the speed limit is very much not the case south of the border. My little car struggles to achieve anything over 70mph, and I was still frequently one of the fastest people on the road. The English love their speed limits. Variable speed limits are obeyed to the letter, and at roadworks, traffic is generally at 49 by the time you’ve hit the 50 sign.

To be fair, there are far more speed cameras in use south of the border, so I do understand the reasons for the good behaviour down south. I just wasn’t aware that it was so dramatically different.

9-Foot Hedges

Seriously, what is it with the 9-foot hedges along every country road? They are terrifying!

In Scotland, the highest the natural barrier you’ll find is (most of the time) a five post rail with maybe some bushes around it. That’s it. You can see plenty of the road ahead, and as a result, plenty of the traffic ahead as well.

Not in England. Granted, I’ve only done a lot of driving in the South of the country, but I’m gathering that this isn’t too different further North. The hedges are ridiculous. They turn a simple, relatively straight road into an absolute death trap. You can’t see the end, you can’t see what’s coming, and there really isn’t enough room to get out of the way when you meet oncoming traffic. Who told you guys this was a good idea? It’s crazy. I’m a pretty confident driver, as is my Dad, and I can confirm that we were both terrified of putting our feet on the accelerator for fear of oncoming traffic.

Guys, sort out the hedges!

Passing Places

Speaking of no room, where the passing places guys? Do you know that such a thing exists, or have you decided you just don’t need them? Passing places, for those who don’t drive/ don’t know, are locations where the road has been widened slightly to allow two cars to pass each other as they travel in opposite directions. On (most) touristy single track roads in Scotland there are passing places every few hundred yards. With the lack of 9-foot hedges (see above), you can see the road ahead, and wait in one such passing place if you spot oncoming traffic. This makes country driving just a touch less terrifying than in England.

When we were in Cornwall, we were staying in what was actually quite a big, fairly busy wee village. In Scotland, the access road to this village would be two lanes, or, at the very least, it would have passing places every few hundred yards. Instead, the access road to this village was an unmarked, unsigned country road that gave the impression of leading nowhere important, until suddenly you arrived in the village and the road became somewhat normal and drivable. Can someone please explain to the Wildling over here why this is the case? Is it a thing, a thing I’m missing in my Celtic ignorance?

I realise this post has turned into a wee bit of a bash on England’s roads, which is a shame, because I did really enjoy my holiday down south, despite your strange motoring ways. So, in the interest of fairness (and also because I’m curious), people of England-land, what is it about Scotland’s roads that confuse you? What shocked you most about driving “north of The Wall”? N.B: if you don’t get that reference, I’m not sure we can be friends.

10 Wonderful Things #2

In typical Lauren fashion, I started this gratitude round-up with the intention of it becoming a weekly thing, published the first instalment, and then buggered off on holiday for two weeks and forgot all about it. I’m a great blogger, aren’t I? And now as I sit here and write out this second instalment in the series, I’m considering scrapping it on the blog and turning into a weekly newsletter instead, along with a round-up of my favourite Instagram shots of the week. Let me know what you think? Is that something people would be interested in?

1) Holidays

Don’t think I could really do a gratitude post without talking about me lollidays, could I? An overnight road trip on the Isle of Skye followed by a week in sunny Cornwall. I’ve been a very lucky girl.

2) My Wee Car

Broom Broom (yes, I’m one of those arseholes, don’t judge me) came on both my holidays with me. My car used to belong to my Grandad and lived a life of leisure where the longest journey it took was from the garage to Asda and back. Now she’s been all over Scotland and even survived all the way to Cornwall and back without complaint. I love my wee car.

3) Well-Timed Travel

Fab weather in Glasgow, then to fab weather in Cornwall while it rains constantly at home, and then back for the heatwave in Glasgow once more. If that isn’t good timing I don’t know what is.

4) Cornwall’s Beaches

Need I say more?

5) The Sunshine

I, the pasty white Scottish lassie, have achieved a tan. Nailed it.

6) Exploring the Tastes of the World

Whilst I was down in Cornwall I got to taste some of the local delicacies. As a right foodie, I do enjoy trying new bits and pieces when I get the chance.

7) Slow Mornings

I’ve discovered that one of my favourite things in life is really being able to take my time in the mornings, giving myself the time to wake up and really just set myself up for the day. I’m more productive in the evenings, so I’ve no need to be up and ready to work at the crack of dawn anyway.

8) The Slow Sunday Club

One of the reasons I got into blogging and Instagram was to engender and find community and a place of belonging. I’ve found myself some groups that I’m loving being involved in. The Slow Sunday Club sends out their newsletter every Sunday, and I always look forward to it landing in my inbox. As an added bonus, my shots have been featured in the #slowsundayclub top 5 on Instagram for the past two weeks! Loving life!

Today has been a rather wonderful relaxing day. I had a wonderful long lie (which I may regret when my body gets a fright a 6am tomorrow morning) then spent a little time wandering the shops before heading into uni. So, so proud of @a_tonality for absolutely smashing her final recital of undergrad👏👏👏 if mine goes as well tomorrow I’ll be well chuffed. . Speaking of tomorrow morning, it’s my first public recital of university, and I feel oddly calm. Is this a good thing? Is it bad? We’ll find out tomorrow😆😆 . . . . #findingthejoyineveryday #theuncoolclub #slowsundayclub #flashesofdelight #blogandbeyond #thisishowihueit #reallifeandstyle #great_wide_somewhere #wandering_through_life #flower #flowersofinstagram #flowerlove #flowers #flowerphotography #flowersmakemehappy #flowersgivemepower #tentsmuirbeach #tentsmuir #scotland #beach #finalrecital #singer #soprano #officeoftheday #musicstudent #exam

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9) Blog and Beyond

This group is a Godsend. Whenever I’m feeling lost or confused, or I’m in need of advice of some kind, I turn to Charlotte and the Blog and Beyond girls. They always tell me what I need to know.

10) Acing Exams

I received the results for my final exam whilst I was in Cornwall, and it was pretty much the result I was expecting, so I am pretty happy. The comments and critiques were also all things I knew and have been working on, so I know I’m on the right track.

 

Tell me, I’m a nosy cow, what wonderful things have happened to you this week?

 

 

 

How I’m Managing My Anxiety and Depression

Disclaimer: I am in no way a medical professional. The advice I offer here is simply based on my personal experiences.

Mental health matters. This is something I truly, utterly believe. I also believe that opening up the discussion and just talking about mental health can have a massive effect on a person and their struggles. At least, I know it really did for me.

At it’s worst, depression turned me into a complete zombie. I struggled to get out of bed, and I’d spend periods just sat staring into space, unable to bring myself to move or do anything. I am a major Type A personality and perfectionist (although I’m also a lazy shite, but more on this later) and I think this may have been the only reason I got up every day and lived some semblance of a life. Being seen as subpar or less than was something that I just couldn’t stomach.

But there was no soul in anything I did. No emotions. I got up, went about my day, and spent most of my waking moments wishing I was in bed. I turned down almost every social invite I was given because I just could not face people and existing. When I was sat in groups or out with friends, I’d just be sat in the corner on my phone because making conversation was just too much effort.

My depression has improved, but I still have some bad episodes, and to be honest, at times the episodes are far worse than the extended period I suffered from in my second year of university.

With regards to my anxiety, I’ve always been an anxious person. Even as a child people always commented on how well behaved I was, when in truth I was just so scared of what people thought that I was terrified into inaction.

Sometimes, I find the anxiety is the harder to fight. I’ve lived with it for so long that I didn’t realise it was an issue until recently, whereas when I first began to suffer from depression I immediately sought out help to figure out what was wrong with me. My anxiety also tends to keep itself pretty lowkey – most of the time. It creeps along unnoticeable for quite some time before jumping out and knocking me flat on my backside.

Having realised, though, that these things are not an intrinsic part of my personality, and are in fact little angry voices living within my head, I’ve found them easier to live with. Instead of thinking that I’m broken and never going to be able to do the things I want, now it’s just a case of remembering to be kind to these little monsters sitting on my shoulders, and they, in turn, make living my life just that little bit easier.

An Established Sleep Pattern

I love sleep. So much. So much so that the idea of getting out of bed before 10 makes me cry.

Or it did.

My phone has a health app automatically installed, and when I told it I wanted to feel more rested it set me sleep goals. These goals simply involved me going to bed and waking up at the same time every day. I was dubious (waking up at half 7 on a weekend?! No thanks!) But I have actually seen a massive difference in my moods, and getting up early just sets up my day right. I actually get shit done.

Getting Organised

Organisation is a big one. Being organised gives you the upper hand over anxiety in particular. Instead of panicking about upcoming deadlines you’re vaguely aware of, being organised, writing them down and then actually doing something about them is so much better for you. That way, even if something does go wrong, you’re prepared, and you stand a better chance of succeeding without a meltdown.

Yoga

Or just exercise in general. Get out there, shake what ya mamma gave you. I know for some people in the depths of a depressive episode the idea of getting up and exercising is the last thing you think possible, but believe me when I say that the clarity and energy you can glean from exercise is priceless.

Yoga is so gentle and easy on the body you can sometimes feel like you aren’t exercising at all. That’s why I believe it’s perhaps the best form of exercise for those suffering from anxiety or depression.

Time Off

And not just days where I pretend to do nothing and just sit there like a vegetable. I mean taking days off to do something purely for pleasure, purely for myself. Not for the blog. No university work. Just me.

I think, especially in today’s culture, days off are seen as a negative or something to be enjoyed once in a blue moon. Taking a day for yourself is actually really beneficial.

Pushing through to burnout is not the most productive way to get things done. Take a day. A bet you’ll be far more productive when you get back to work after your siesta.

These are my little tips and tricks for making friends with pain in the bum and nagging voice sat on my shoulders. They’re not perfect. They don’t work every time, and I’m not perfect when it comes to executing them. I’m improving though, and that’s the main thing.

If you’ve any tips and tricks that you’ve found really help you then leave them down below as a comment. Let’s open the discussion and help each other out. This can only improve our chances in the fight for better mental health.

10 Wonderful Things #1

1) The Sunshine

What absolutely wonderful weather we’ve been having over the past few weeks! I’ve been able to get my summer clothing out and just really enjoy being warm for once. Shorts and skirts galore!

2) Picnics in the Park

On Monday Rosie and I packed up our picnic hamper and headed to Kelvingrove Park to soak up the sunshine. It really has been a very long time since I took time to go sit in the park and just relax.

3) Dining Al Fresco

I’ve loved being able to get up in the morning, have a refreshing shower, and then head outside to eat my breakfast outside. There’s just something so right about being able to wake your body up out in the fresh air and sunshine.

4) Body Confidence

I don’t know what brought it on or where it came from, but I’ve somehow found a new wave of fantastic body confidence over the past few weeks. I’ve had my legs out and just not given a shit. I’ve gone back to dressing my body the way I want and I’m just feeling great.

5) Fresh Flowers

I’ve been treating myself to a cheap bouquet of fresh flowers from Tesco to decorate my bedside table, and I am loving it. Fresh flowers just make any room look 100 times better, don’t they?

6) The Rain

Bet you weren’t expecting that. Yes, I have absolutely loved having the sunshine around and catching a tan, but that build up there at the end was just too much. I’ve needed it to rain for at least three days now, but better late than never.

7) Instagram Community

You hear so many people talking about the community and friendships you can build on Instagram, but for so long I just wasn’t sure. Recently, however, I’ve found myself starting and making conversation with so many new people, and I’m really loving the feeling.

So much so that I’ve decided to try and foster a community of my own. Use #wandering_through_life to tag your travel, lifestyle and just anything posts, and come join in the conversations.

8) Late Night Inspiration

Late night train journeys really are the best times for me to get the synapses firing. I’ve written two blog posts on the train recently, and began sketching another on last night’s return trip.

9) Great Reading

I recently purchased Laura Jane William’s book ‘Becoming’ on Kindle, and I’ve been loving it. I love how she’s carried her funny, candid truth through into her writing, and look forward to finishing it.

10) Screaming Strauss

Strauss is one of my favourite composers, and as I look forward to my auditions at the end of this year, I’m loving having a wee explore through the repertoire and selecting some bangers to have a crack at.

What has been the highlight of your week this week?

Rannoch Moor from the West Highland Way

My Road Trip Car Essentials

As many of you know, I love me a good road trip. I just find jumping into the car and heading off on an adventure the perfect mix of exciting and relaxing. Exploring the world around me really is one of life’s great pleasures.

Having been on as many road trips as I have, I’ve learnt a thing or two about the essentials you need to have in your car before setting off on an adventure.

Wine Bay Beach, Isle of Cumbrae

Snacks

I love my snacks. All of the snacks. Having snacks in the car allows you to be a little more flexible with the time you spend at destinations, particularly those that are more rural and out of the way, without having your life being ruled by your stomach. Snacks let you settle the little rumbles long enough to get you to some proper grub.

Now an essential point to bringing snacks; buy them before you set off. You never know when you’re going to get peckish, and picking up a packet of crisps or a granola bar in Tesco is always going to be cheaper than grabbing something from the cafe or gift shop of whichever tourist attraction you’ve stopped at.

My favourite road trip snacks are a packet of mint imperials to freshen up stale breath and a box of granola or snack bars, such as these by Deliciously Ella.

 

Daisy Glen, Pollock Country Park, Glasgow

Sunglasses

More than one pair. Always. I don’t know how many times I’ve gotten back into the car after being out wandering, got five minutes down the road, the sun’s come out and my sunglasses are in the boot in my backpack. It’s a pain in the backside. I always have at least one pair of shades, probably a £1 set from Primark, in my glovebox for emergencies, and then my trusty aviators ready and waiting in my centre console.

Ardrossan Harbour, Scotland

 

Hand Sanitiser/ Baby Wipes

Sticky hands are the worse, whether you’re passenger or driver. Having a pack of Baby Wipes tucked away helps to just make it all better, and are a lifesaver if something inevitably gets spilt or the sun cream nozzle was pointed the wrong way.

Hand Sanitiser speaks for itself; hands get grubby and dirty, and we never know how many other people have been touching the things you’ve been touching, and what they’ve been touching before. Hand Sanitiser just offers you peace of mind, especially when eating on the go. I have a tiny travel size bottle I picked up for £0.99 within easy reach in my centre console at all times.

 

Bell Bay, Isle of Cumbrae

Water Bottle

Need I say more?

These are just my essentials for a road trip. I have some other bits and bobs that are interchangeable depending on where I’m going and how far I’m going. There are also other essentials I have in my car, but they are my full-time essentials and are always in my car. I may do a post on them later if you guys are interested.