Category: Lifestyle

Still waiting…

Hi guys,

I wrote in last weeks goals post that some of my goals were to spend some time “finding” myself. I had put them into the relationships category of my goals, because I’ve come to the conclusion that my non-existent love life probably stems from me not really being ready or knowing myself properly, so therefore send out all the wrong signals, so spending a little time getting to know me might help me “get to know” someone else. And I do stand by what I wrote last week.

However, taking time to be alone and single and wait for “the one” to get his arse in gear and show his face is all well and good, but I do have some major issues with this plan.

First off, I am not a patient person . Waiting is not something I am good at. Never has been. So waiting for something that may happen at some undetermined point in the future really is actually quite difficult.

Secondly, I am terrified.

If you ask me what it is I want in life, my honest answer is not “to have lots of money” or “have a successful career”, it’s to be loved. And not loved in the way that you’re by your mother or father or brother. I want that special, butterflies in your stomach, tingly, one of a kind love you get from loving that someone special.

I don’t want to spend the rest of my life alone.

I am terrified that I will live the entirety of my life without feeling of joy that I see my friends in relationships have.

I know the likely of that happening is actually pretty slim, but it’s a niggly wee voice in the back of my head, rabbiting away in the quiet moments. And it does get to you after a while.

But I am determined to ignore it, and get on with living my life, and believe wholeheartedly that when I least expect him, “the one” will come wandering around the corner, and maybe we’ll have the romantic movie meeting with the bumping and the music dropping and the magical eye contact. Gives me a reason for dropping my music all the time. I’m not clumsy, just trying to find me a man.

My Goals for 2017

Hi guys,

New year, new me, right? That’s how the saying goes, isn’t it? I think it works better as Old year, Old problems. I see the New Year as more of a time to reset and leave the bad things behind,  than as a time to add more new “better” things to the pile of things going on in my life, without dealing with and getting rid of any issues accrued over the past year. Focussing on improving things, without reviewing or refreshing, seems a little counter-intuitive to me, because all you’re really doing is leaving the bad things to fester and sour, and come up and bite you in the arse at some point throughout your new year, meaning that all those “improvements” you’ve made will all go to waste. You’ve brought your old problems into the new year, so that new you is pretty much the same as old you, right?

That being said, you do need some good things to add in and look forward to, otherwise we’d all just be sitting complaining that we’re getting nowhere and life is shit, and who in their right mind wants that? Not me anyway.

Goal setting does have its benefits, and it’s fun, so I do enjoy setting a few wee goals here and there. It’s a nice little guide that gives you an idea of how you’d like your year to go and the path you’d like to follow. For me, though, goal setting does tend to just be a five-minute exercise that I forget about like an hour later and so spend the rest of the year just wandering about aimlessly, feeling lost, confused and like I’m not really getting anywhere.

But no more!

This year,  this 2017, I am making plans I intend to stick to. I’m telling you guys about them, so hopefully you guys can guilt trip me into keeping to them. I have a feeling that it’s something I really can do this year.

Career

1. Do my vocal warm up exercises every day.

2. Have music off copy after the second week learning it.

I sometimes find myself to be a bit of a contradiction; I want to be the best and to work hard and do well,  but never ever seem to find the motivation to put in the work required to achieve these things. I spend little time in the practice room, and then wonder why I get no better, then spend every day in a practice room, get better, have an epiphany, and then just slip back into old habit?! Not this time. This time I will stick to my practice routine

Blog

1. Stick to a schedule of a minimum two posts a week.

2. Take a social media marketing course.

I have a really bad habit of blogging in fits and starts, being “fairly” reliable with my posting, and then dropping off the radar for weeks on end. If I want to take this blog further, I really need to crack down and be better at disciplining myself. I have plans for this blog, and I intend to knuckle down and get them done this year.

Finances

1. Have £500 in my savings account.

2. Have a safety buffer of an additional £150.

Anyone who knows me knows that I am shit with money. As in God awful, probably going to have to change my name and move to Panama to avoid the banks kind of awful. Budgets do not exist in my eyes. I make one, then see something in a sale, and boom! Entire budget up in smoke. My finances have been improving over the last few months out of extreme necessity. It got seriously close to Panama time just before Christmas. However, I am now employed, with steady(ish) income, so hopefully things can only be looking up for my not so thrifty self.

Health

1. Attend the gym at least once a week.

2. Drink at least 1 litre of water a day.

I am not a healthy person. In any way, shape or form. I eat what I want (usually McDonald’s or something similar) whenever I want,  I really struggle to grasp the concept that exercise needs to be done more than once to be beneficial, and to be honest I get out of breath walking from the train station to uni. It’s a 6/7 minute walk. It’s pathetic.

My new health kick, however, is born out of necessity. My voice is growing and becoming stronger,  and I’m beginning to lack the stamina to keep up with it. An entire lesson spent singing full voice knackers me for the rest of the day, and that is not the greatest way to start a sustainable career.  So, I have given my fate over to Katie, the maddest gym rat I know. She may torture me, break me and run me into walls, just so long as she helps me improve my fitness and stamina. Without killing me, I hope.

Relationships

1. Set aside an hour a week for self-care.

2. Journal 3 times a week at minimum.
I know these goals may seem a little odd and self-centred, but I do have a reason for putting my very selfish goals into the relationship category. My relationship history is, well, non-existent, and, after much thinking and confusion and discussion with friends, I have come to a conclusion. There’s clearly a common denominator in any and all interactions I have with the opposite gender, and that denominator is me. And so I have decided to take some time away from my search for my better half, and spend some more time soul searching instead; spend some more time getting to know myself and improve myself before I thrust the hot mess that is myself upon some poor, unsuspecting young gentleman.

Although, if he comes along whilst I’m soul searching… well, I wouldn’t say no.

Five Inspirational Quotes to Get You Through the Day

Five Inspirational Quotes to Get You Through Today!

Everyone needs a little pick-me-up now and then. One method I use to re-energise myself and keep me going through the day is taking a wee stroll across Pinterest and the Internet for the best inspirational quotes of the day. I then like to scribble them down in my Quotes journal, so that I have them all stored up in one place.

Here’s today’s Five Inspirational Quotes!

1.

“If it scares you, it might be a good thing to try.”

– Seth Godin

 2.

“If you want something you never had you have to do something you’ve never done.”

3.

“Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, and honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around.”

4.

” Great minds discuss ideas.

Average minds discuss events.

Small minds discuss people.”

– Eleanor Roosevelt

5.

Perfection is achieved, not when there is nothing more to add, but when there is nothing left to take away.”

– Antoine de Saint-Exupéry

Have a wonderful week, my lovelies!

Is Trump Really the Problem?

Hi guys,
So after waking up today to find that 2016 still had at least one more ridiculously stupid political result left hiding in her skirts, it got me thinking.

I completely, utterly and wholeheartedly believe that Donald Trump is worse than the mysogonistic, arrogant, racist pig that he has been revealed to be on this campaign trail. He just happens to have a spectacularly good campaign team who have managed to mask and hide much of the true evil that hides in that man’s heart.

America, believe me, there is more to come. I wish you luck with your new ‘role model’.

Hillary Clinton is, and always was, the better candidate. Fact. She is experienced, level-headed, and has had the skill, determination and strength of character to pull herself up to these high heights of politics through the muddy marsh of mysogyny and sexism that is this planet. That is a strong woman. That is someone I admire.

So to wake up and find that this incredible strong woman has been beaten by a man with a level of maturity equal to that of a three year old (and let’s face it,  that’s being mean to the three year old) then I’m left wracking my brain for the answer to the question “what’s wrong with this planet?”. Why are we fucking up  spectacularly?

And I think I have the answer.

It’s  me.

It’s me and people my age. The millennials.

We are marked as the generation of change, far more liberal than our predecessors,  ready to vote to save the world.

But we don’t.

Don’t get me wrong, there are of course exceptions to this rule, as with just about any rule, but we don’t vote. We shout and discuss our views in private and in public, praising our beliefs and our aspirations and dreams for the future as far as we can, but when it comes down to the actual act, far too often we are the people who refuse to vote.

Sometimes, we do it in protest; I don’t like either option so I refuse to vote. I, personally, believe this to be a rather stupid idea, but each to his own.

Most times however, Millennials don’t vote because we believe that it won’t  matter, that we can’t make a difference.

And that is where you are wrong.

We are touted as the generation for change for a reason. We are a strong, proud political force, a force to be reckoned with, but if we keep holding ourselves back, in “protest” or not, then we let them win. Those people who say that Millennials are the lazy generation, the wastes of space. Those who talk down to us because we don’t see things the same way they do. They value physical purchases, we value experience. They strain and struggle against our wants and needs for a more liberal, open society, so they tell us that we are useless, stupid, and will amount to nothing; and we start to believe them.

Don’t. You. Dare.

They tell us that we are stupid and know nothing because they can see that we are powerful, we hold the power. And they’re scared. Let them be. They should be. We hold the power, we hold the sway, and if you would just use it…

I have seen charts released by several news outlets of what would happen if just Millennials voted. Clinton won. In almost every single state.

Does this not tell you something?

This is our planet, we are the one’s destined to now grow up in the wake of these political fuck ups. How will you ride the wave? I’ll be championing the power that I hold, using my vote in an attempt to fix what they have damaged. Will you?

America, I wish you luck. To the rest of the world, God help us!

Rant over.

My Favourite Things About October!

Hi guys,

When did it get to October?! It was June like two days ago! I was getting really excited about America and Summer and sunshine and…and now it’s October,  and it’s back to hard work and uni and singing and fresher’s flu…

Don’t get me started on fresher’s flu. I’ve been ill for over a week. It was in my throat,  then my nose, then all over, and it’s now having a last-ditch assault in my chest before heading on out the door.

As you can tell,  flu is one of my least favourite things about October.

But October is still one of my favourite times of year. Here’s why…

1. Autumn

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Autumn/Winter is my favourite time of year! For many, many reasons. Although the Autumn technically begins in September, it doesn’t really feel like it’s here until October. That wee interim period between Summer and Autumn is an awkward one, but it opens out into  a spectacular season of change, revealing a colour palette Mother Nature reserves just for this time of year.

2. Layers

Fashion is a weakness of mine. Paired with make up, it’s probably the main reason I’m a spectacularly skint student. Maybe food is in contention for that title, I’m an absolute fat git. Summer in Scotland is a funny one. It’s warm, but not warm enough to not have something to cover your shoulders,  but too warm for you not to be boiled alive the second you do cover your shoulders. Pain in the bum.

But Autumn is the time of year for layers. Winter you just wear massive jackets and you’re done,  but in autumn you can play with cardigans and scarves and shawls and wraps. The list is endless. I really love the wrap above from Amazon, you could coorie doon away from the cold and not reappear until Spring.

3. Knitwear

Leading in from the previous point, Autumn is the time for Knitwear. It’s so comfy and cosy and soft and…need I say more people? Get the Knitwear out the cupboard!

4. Hallowe’en

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Would October be October without Hallowe’en?  Answer…no. Absolutely not! I really struggle to decide between Christmas and Hallowe’en as my favourite holiday of the year (it’s probably Christmas, but just because it lasts longer and I’m a greedy git!). I do love all the dressing up and sweets and partying around Hallowe’en, and revel in the mystic of Samhain, when the veil between this world and the next is at its weakest, and spirits can come and wander as they please.

5. Hocus Pocus

One of my favourite movies of all time, I save Hocus Pocus for this time of year, just to keep the excitement built up all year, and add another touch of fabulousness to the Hallowe’en period. Winifred Sanderson is just wonderfully wicked, and is sass goals. Who doesn’t love to just sass the bejeezus out of people?

And are you honestly trying to tell me this isn’t the best version of “I Put A Spell On You” you’ve ever heard?

So there’s my favourite things about October. What are yours? Do you love Hallowe’en as much as I do?

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You Speak Spanish? That’s So Cool!

Hi guys,

How many foreign languages do you speak? Answer if you’re like many of he people I know – “I can say ‘hello, how are you?’ in French”.

And I bet you say that in the most appallingly Scottish French accent aka no accent at all.

In 2004 the British government decided to make foreign language learning optional at GCSE and Standard grade level, as they stupidly believed that those who had learned languages at primary school would definitely want to continue their studies at high school.

Dumbass.

Language learning is seen as hard, and today’s lazy kids prefer to take different subjects they believe will give them an easy pass, rather than actually apply themselves and acquire skills that definitely will help them in life. I mean, I can’t remember the last time I had to use Pythagorean Theorem or tell you the chemical symbol for cheese, but only this morning was I hearing and translating French I was listening to on television.

Languages are useful. Learn them!

Countries in Europe teach languages as standard in their schools, be that other European languages or English!  They’re making the effort! Why aren’t we?! Europeans are so used to Brits being such ridiculous, for want of a better word, ‘dumb’ tourists, who go on holiday to be British in the sun, instead of travelling to see and feel these wonderful countries. But we make no effort whatsoever to blend in. You can spot a British holidaymaker a mile off (I am guilty of being one myself at one point I do admit.)

I’ve gone slightly off topic, this was a rant about languages…

University courses and foreign language departments are really starting to struggle with their pools of candidates, as fewer people are taking languages in school, and then even  less are taking them on into university. It’s madness!

I loved learning languages in school. The Modern Languages department at Greenfaulds High is something I can only applaud. They really pushed you to learn, and held activities at lunchtime encouraging people to try foreign foods and movies and culture, as well as learning the language. My Spanish teacher was phenomenal, I always loved her classes. She spoke to us and taught  the class entirely in Spanish, and so immersed you entirely in the language. You didn’t realise how much you had learned until you suddenly realised you understood every word she was saying to you, and if you didn’t understand, she helped you figure out by breaking down the sentence, all still in Spanish. it was fabulous. Plus she wasn’t one of those awful language teachers who hated their lives and now only lived to make their students lives a misery, I do get that those exist.

But with all this ranting and raving about how few people are learning languages, I have to admit I’m a bit of a hypocrite, as I’ve let my languages slip. I could still hold a pretty decent conversation with someone in both French and Spanish, and can now have a very basic conversation in Italian, but I’m a bit rusty, and could do with some revision, which is exactly what I’m going to do.

Duolingo is a website and app which lets you learn languages for free. Free! You learn languages in a sort of game like fashio9n, where you lose a heart when you get an answer wrong, you win points when you complete levels, and you can follow and compete with your friends. duolingo has been proven to work, and according to their website just 34 hours spent on Duolingo equates to an entire semenster at University or College.

It is never too late to start learning, or relearning, a language, and so I challenge you my readers to join me in my quest to encourage the world to become bilingual. I am setting myself the challenge of studying Spanish for fifteen minutes every day, and when I’ve completed that course I shall move onto French and the Italian. And after that, who knows.

So go on, get signed in, get learning! You can find me at LaurenJuli1. Follow me, and I’ll follow the next 20 people who follow me back! I’ll also keep you updated with weekly updates, let’s see how long I can keep this up, eh?

 

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My Blogging Goals 2016

My Goals for Wandering Scotland

Hi Guys,

I am currently taking part in the WordPress University course Branding and Growth in order to help me improve Wandering Scotland and grow my blog. Today’s task was to write out three set goals I hope to achieve for Wandering Scotland.

Without further ado, here goes:

 

  1. Have 100 Followers by the end of 2016
  2. Monetise my blog by September 2016
  3. Post at least once a week, every week

 

Given my track record I actually have to say number three might actually be the hardest of those three goal, which you wouldn’t think by looking at them.

Do you guys think I can achieve these goals? What do you suggest I do to meet them?

My Blogging Goals 2016